Friday, May 25, 2007

Emotional Attachment




I cannot close my eyes and sail to my dream world. Something is bothering my mind....

I just ended my discussion with my friend of the differentiation between “an affair and emotional attachment”.

According to my friend, emotional attachment is slightly different with affair. Emotional attachment does not have physical contact while an affair has it.

For me, emotional attachment is a start up of an affair. Because by letting the emotional attachment in a relationship, mean that you have given a part of yourself to the other person.

It cannot be an affair, if the person who has that feeling, knows how to keep their relationship within the borderline. And the only way to keep that relationship within the border is by adding a name into it, which called as “true friend”.

Yes, for sure it is a “true friend”. A friend where we can run to share our sadness and happiness. A friend where we can share anything without worrying that our statement will let them down. A friend who knows better of ourselves, just by listening to our voice or just by looking into our face.

I have ones before … but for some reason I lost it …. and it feels hurt.


So .. here it is, my song for today ... For The First Time - Rod Stewart

Are those your eyes
Is that your smile
I’ve been looking at you forever
Yet I never saw you before

Are these your hands
Holding mine
Now I wonder how I could have been so blind

For the first time
I am looking in your eyes
For the first time
I’m seeing who you are
Can’t believe how much I see
When you’re looking back at me
Now I understand what love is, love is
For the first time

Can this be real
Can this be true
Am I the person I was this morning
And are you the same you

It’s all so strange
How can it be
And all along this love
Was right in front of me

For the first time
I am looking in your eyes
For the first time
I’m seeing who you are
Can’t believe how much I see
When you’re looking back at me
Now I understand what love is, love is
For the first time

Such a long time ago
I had given up on finding
This emotion ever again
But you’re here with me now
Yes I’ve found you some how
And I’ve never been so sure

For the first time
I am looking in your eyes

4 comments:

meleah rebeccah said...

personally, I think emotionally bonding is worse than the physical act of cheating. Sleeping with somone and connecting with someone is very different. just sayin'

writer4web said...

Here is another one from the Beatles...
"I'm looking through you,
where did you go?
I thought I knew you,
what did I know?
You don't look different,
but you have changed...
I'm looking through you,
you're not the same."

I always felt that an emotional attachment was an affair that became a little more than an affair...

writer4web

tere616 said...

meleah rebeccah and writer4web : Can't agree more than you. But my other question is how about "true friend" a best friend where there is also emotional attachment or bonding in that relationship ?

writer4web said...

Hi Tere616,

In the best friend scenario, there is a true emotional attachment with a real
friend, although there is no cheating, no betrayal, and it is an emotional attachment that doesn't endanger other relationships.

writer4web