Friday, August 25, 2006

The Unforgotten Word

Rod Stewart

Have I Told You Lately
By Van Morisson

Have I told you lately that I love you ?
Have I told you there’s no one else above you ?
You fill my heart with gladness, take away all my sadness,
Ease my troubles, that’s what you do.

For the mornin’s sun and all it’s glory
Greets the day with hope and comfort, too.
You fill my life with laughter, somehow you make it better,
Ease my troubles, that’s what you do.

There’s a love that’s divine, and it’s yours and it’s mine
Like the sun.
And at the end of the day, we should give thanks and pray
To the one, to the one

Have I told you lately that I love you ?
Have I told you there;s no one else above you ?
You fill my heart with gladness, take away all my sadness,
Ease my troubles, that’s what you do.

There’s a love that’s divine, and it’s yours and it’s mine
Like the sun.
And at the end of the day, we should give thanks and pray
To the one, to the one

And have I told you lately that I love you ?
Have I told you there’s no one else above you ?
You fill my heart with gladness, take away all my sadness,
Ease my troubles, that’s what you do.

Take away all my sadness, you fill my heart with gladness,
Ease my troubles, that’s what you do

Take away all my sadness, you fill my heart with gladness,
Ease my troubles, that’s what you do

Boring Friday ....

Friday ….let’s shake your junk and dance ….!

The subject on my Friday mail from 43things people. It’s nice to read what their fav music for the happy Friday. Oh it must be fun out there ….;

I wish I can attend my yoga class, I’ve been absent for 2 months, started since am back to the corporation world. I don’ have time to attend the class neither in the morning nor in the evening. The schedule of meeting was unbelievable. It’s always start at 4 pm, even though it’s Friday …

Friday, where our mind is not in our paper work., where the mind spend imagining the fun and crazy evening…

..So, hows today, let’s hope that there’s no urgent meeting call at 4 pm, because I haven’t finished my analysis homework …

I just want to go home early today ….and spend the rest of the day by myself. Am still sick remember ? So no ice cream in the evening, no hanging around somewhere…just go home.

Not reflected a fun and crazy Friday plan, huh ?

Thursday, August 24, 2006

The Worst Common Flu

It’s been a long time ago when the common cold stop by and teasing me. After I practiced my yoga, it seems that “common cold” lost his appetite to do his favorite thing. Until last Friday, the lovely “common cold” suddenly stops by at my house and play around with me.

It is almost a week, I’m suffering of common cold. I can’t sleep well, can’t taste the macaroni schotel even though I put a lot of cheese in and top of it. The worst thing is I have put aside my wishes to taste the sweetness of chocolate and strawberry ice cream and Vietnamese coffee……


We went to Cali Deli yesterday and my face just like “Pluto hunger for the big bone” when I look into the drink list menu …..

The worst part is I could not take the common flu medicine, like decolgen. Suddenly, my body reaction to that medicine was unbelievable, my eyes suddenly like a sparing partner of Mike Tyson…

Wish this nightmare will go away .......

Bullshit and Ass kissing...(new varian)

This is an old mathematic calculation with new varian about success...

From a strictly mathematical viewpoint it goes like this:

What Makes 100%? What does it mean to give MORE than 100%? Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%? We have all been to those meetings where someone wants you to give over 100%. How about achieving 103%? What makes up 100% in life?

Here's a little mathematical formula that might help you answer these questions:


is represented as:
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26.


H-A-R-D-W-O-R- K
8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%


11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%


1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%


2+21+12+12+19+8+9+20 = 103%

AND, look how far ass kissing will take you.

1+19+19+11+9+19+19+9+14+7 = 118%

So, one can conclude with mathematical certainty that, while Hard work and Knowledge will get you close, and Attitude will get you there, it's the Bullshit and Ass kissing that will put you over the top.

Just look around you - is it true or not ...

Phew… I remember the advice that I’ve given to my old friend yesterday when he shared his worried of his new HR Director. I gave him some tips to handle his new boss, which one of the tips was “you have to pleased her, don’t ever against her, and try to build a good relationship by understanding her dos and don’ts”.

He replied my text , “the problem is am not an ass kisser”.

I don’t think please your boss is the same as an ass kisser. By trying to understand the dos and don’ts, at least we can minimize the misunderstanding, minimize the argument, minimize the hurt feeling ….

So.. back to the email above, yes “ass kissing” was one that can boost you to the top, but once again the “Good Ass Kissing” (I don’t know the variant, maybe it could be 200 %)

Thursday, August 17, 2006

Happy Independence Day Indonesia ........

Today, we are celebrating our 61st independence day …. And how sad to watch the news that many of the younger generation don’t even know the composer of Indonesian anthem.

I asked my daughters whether they know about the composer of Indonesian anthem, and they gave me the same answer as seen on TV.

Born in the family where the old people always reminded us of their struggle and fight for freedom, its bit irony to know that my daughters did not know anything about Indonesian anthem, the most beautiful anthem in the world.

I think I should tell them the story of their ancestors … ; to remind them that we could live as if today is because of them, because of their struggle to free from the colonizer.

Therefore, I dedicated this song, a song that has a moral message, a wish from our ancestors to the younger generation, to my two beautiful daughters.

Waktu hujan turun, rintik perlahan
Bintang pun menari, awan pun menebal,
Kutimang si buyung, belaian sayang
Anakku seorang, tidurlah tidur
Ibu menjaga, Ayah mendoa
Agar kau kelak jujur melangkah
Jangan engkau lupa, Tanah pusaka
Tanah air kita, Indonesia

Belaian Sayang
By Bing Slamet

Saturday, August 05, 2006

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator ( MBTI)

I met with this kind of personality test when I was working with TNT – the European courier company like DHL - several years ago.

We had our national sales meeting when my Country Director had an idea to run this test based on the test he had when he attended his country director annual meeting.

The idea of this test was to know each other personality so all of us could know how to talk with each other by understanding their behavior.

The interesting part of this test as informed by the regional Human Resources Director was no matter we tried to think hard to fill in the questionnaire, even by taking another test a year ahead the result is still the same. She told us that she was taking her first test about 5 years ago and yet there are no changes in the result when she’s taking the test again.

In other word, once the result come out … for the rest of our live, the result is staying the same and it’s true.

When I took this test in 2000, it stated that my personality was ENTJ; and now, when I’m taking the test through, the result stills the same ENTJ.

Below is one of the result, Happy Reading ….

- Extraverted iNtuitive Thinking Judging(Extraverted Thinking with Introverted Intuition)
The Executive

As an ENTJ, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you deal with things rationally and logically. Your secondary mode is internal, where you take things in primarily via your intuition.

ENTJs are natural born leaders. They live in a world of possibilities where they see all sorts challenges to be surmounted, and they want to be the ones responsible for surmounting them. They have a drive for leadership, which is well-served by their quickness to grasp complexities, their ability to absorb a large amount of impersonal information, and their quick and decisive judgments. They are "take charge" people.

ENTJs are very career-focused, and fit into the corporate world quite naturally. They are constantly scanning their environment for potential problems which they can turn into solutions. They generally see things from a long-range perspective, and are usually successful at identifying plans to turn problems around - especially problems of a corporate nature. ENTJs are usually successful in the business world, because they are so driven to leadership. They're tireless in their efforts on the job, and driven to visualize where an organization is headed. For these reasons, they are natural corporate leaders.

There is not much room for error in the world of the ENTJ. They dislike to see mistakes repeated, and have no patience with inefficiency. They may become quite harsh when their patience is tried in these respects, because they are not naturally tuned in to people's feelings, and more than likely don't believe that they should tailor their judgments in consideration for people's feelings. ENTJs, like many types, have difficulty seeing things from outside their own perspective. Unlike other types, ENTJs naturally have little patience with people who do not see things the same way as the ENTJ. The ENTJ needs to consciously work on recognizing the value of other people's opinions, as well as the value of being sensitive towards people's feelings. In the absence of this awareness, the ENTJ will be a forceful, intimidating and overbearing individual. This may be a real problem for the ENTJ, who may be deprived of important information and collaboration from others. In their personal world, it can make some ENTJs overbearing as spouses or parents.

The ENTJ has a tremendous amount of personal power and presence which will work for them as a force towards achieving their goals. However, this personal power is also an agent of alienation and self-aggrandizement, which the ENTJ would do well to avoid.

ENTJs are very forceful, decisive individuals. They make decisions quickly, and are quick to verbalize their opinions and decisions to the rest of the world. The ENTJ who has not developed their Intuition will make decisions too hastily, without understanding all of the issues and possible solutions. On the other hand, an ENTJ who has not developed their Thinking side will have difficulty applying logic to their insights, and will often make poor decisions. In that case, they may have brilliant ideas and insight into situations, but they may have little skill at determining how to act upon their understanding, or their actions may be inconsistent. An ENTJ who has developed in a generally less than ideal way may become dictatorial and abrasive - intrusively giving orders and direction without a sound reason for doing so, and without consideration for the people involved.

Although ENTJs are not naturally tuned into other people's feelings, these individuals frequently have very strong sentimental streaks. Often these sentiments are very powerful to the ENTJ, although they will likely hide it from general knowledge, believing the feelings to be a weakness. Because the world of feelings and values is not where the ENTJ naturally functions, they may sometimes make value judgments and hold onto submerged emotions which are ill-founded and inappropriate, and will cause them problems - sometimes rather serious problems.

ENTJs love to interact with people. As Extroverts, they're energized and stimulated primarily externally. There's nothing more enjoyable and satisfying to the ENTJ than having a lively, challenging conversation. They especially respect people who are able to stand up to the ENTJ, and argue persuasively for their point of view. There aren't too many people who will do so, however, because the ENTJ is a very forceful and dynamic presence who has a tremendous amount of self-confidence and excellent verbal communication skills. Even the most confident individuals may experience moments of self-doubt when debating a point with an ENTJ.

ENTJs want their home to be beautiful, well-furnished, and efficiently run. They're likely to place much emphasis on their children being well-educated and structured, to desire a congenial and devoted relationship with their spouse. At home, the ENTJ needs to be in charge as much as he or she does in their career. The ENTJ is likely best paired with someone who has a strong self-image, who is also a Thinking type. Because the ENTJ is primarily focused on their careers, some ENTJs have a problem with being constantly absent from home, physically or mentally.

The ENTJ has many gifts which make it possible for them to have a great deal of personal power, if they don't forget to remain balanced in their lives. The are assertive, innovative, long-range thinkers with an excellent ability to translate theories and possibilities into solid plans of action. They are usually tremendously forceful personalities, and have the tools to accomplish whatever goals they set out for.

Jungian functional preference ordering:
Dominant: Extraverted Thinking
Auxiliary: Introverted Intuition
Tertiary: Extraverted Sensing
Inferior: Introverted Feeling

The Longest Day

Phew….finally it’s over. Woke up at 04.00 am and rushed to the train station to catch the first train to Cirebon. Yeah…I have to sign the entire notary and bank administration process.

The branch manager was so kind. She admired the handicraft that was put in the show room. “You must have the art sense; otherwise your handicraft wouldn't be that beautiful”.

Just smiled and told her that I have to stop my handicraft business for a while. I will come back to the handicraft business someday with proper preparation.

Listened to the notary read the legal agreement, witnesses my husband sign the document. Put my signature as the witness of the agreement.

Smiled and politely answered the question of my current job, the possibility of me staying in Cirebon, my daughters condition; all that kind of “appetizer” questions.

I felt relief when I left the bank at 11.45 am. Slept less than 4 hours, did not eat my normal breakfast, catch up the train and took almost 3 hours trip with the cockroach children running at my window…was not something to be remember ….; in fact it made me loose my temper.

Had the lunch at my favorite restaurant, “Ayam Bahagia” (The Happy Chicken – if literally translated to English) before ahead to the fabric.

I thought I could finish my “Corporate Solution” business plan but the effect of 4 hours slept made me loose my brain also.

I could not think and the worst thing, I could not digest the 300 pages research survey of the key player within Telco industry.

….. #@%$^%^**&@#@$$%$ …

I have to finish it on Monday and only read 30 pages of those 300 pages. I have to give it to my Marketing Director on Monday (anytime as long as Monday) and still my brain was drain.

I can’t say anything now…except whisper my wishes to GOD to give me a brain to think of my strategy clearly so I could write it down and give it to my Marketing Director.

…I think I have to take a rest now, already 00.30 AM. Just arrived from Cirebon at 11.00 pm...

Could you find the essence of all am saying ? LOL, the essence only one word "EXHAUSTED"

Thursday, August 03, 2006

See No Evil - Hear No Evil - Speak No Evil

Have you ever experienced the relationship that was beautiful which started with something that illogical, irrational, unreasonable ... (name it, the all called “so wrong”).

It happened just a couple years ago. When the called “so wrong” stop by for a moment and tease somebody’s life.

It started on the hot, euphoria, dizzy night, when the riddle, non-sense story, the flirting game start to show themselves. The night when everybody realized that it would be their last time together after shared their emotional feeling through games, ideas, and discussion.

It started through wicked wishes, where somebody played his treat and trick and the other played her wicked sense. It started through the intuitive feelings of witty person.

Another Dare Game ? Another “La vie en Rose” ? No, it is not another Dare Game nor La vie en Rose.

It’s just like a band play on the music. It’s just like a waves stop by at the beach where the signage of the visit was only on the sand. It’s just as bird stops by at my window and play their beautiful song. It’s just like the unreal happy things but left the sadness memory.

It takes a year to realize that it was just a shadow. It takes a year to realize the mistakes. It takes a year to realize that it was a wicked game. It takes a year to realize that there is no give and take. It takes a year to realize that it was far beyond what we called a “friendship”.

The all called “so wrong” but “so beautiful”. The all called “so wrong” but seems “so right”.

Another Dare Game ? Another Dare Wicked Game ?

No ….. No more…..

It takes more than a year to convince me that I was wrong. It takes more than a year to finally admitted that you're right. It takes more than a year to finally admitted that it was hurt. It takes more than a year to be able to say "thank you".

The English and CRM Class

My English Class day …. !!!!

We talked about movies …. Only the three of us, my young adult friend, myself and my teacher. We love watching film like hell. Therefore, since only the three of us in the class, we all agreed that we would discuss the film that we have watched.

It started when my teacher asked us, if we have a choice between Porn Regulation and the Police act, which one that we would choose.

Me, since I hate the way a police officer act, automatically will choose the government take care our police officer. My teacher, she is British, agreed with my comment. She told us that she doesn’t mind to cover herself as long as Indonesian police officer behaves as if they should be.

I agreed with the idea of cover us, but it’s only 5 minutes. I told her “Hemma, no. I don’t like to cover myself but I do mind to do something if our Indonesian police officer behaves.

Then we are talking about Shamalayan film, compared it with Sixth Sense and Psycho. Jump to another film of Denzel Washington, discussed how funny his film “Inside Man”. Try to understand the different type of humor like black humor, dry humor …and the other humor (forgot the idiom).

Change the topic to Saturday Night Live , the comedian program at CNBC (we could not watch it every time .. but sometimes we could see it) .How Adam Sandler and Eddy Murphy were the one of Saturday Night Live program. Differentiate it with British humor at Little Britain (?) and Whose in the Line (?) - another program at Star World.

It seems that it will be like a merry go round, round and round and round…..until the time is over and my teacher gave us her comment of our grammar. …”The first English discussion I have ever had in my life without any correction !”…

What a happy day …!!! After 9 hours stuck in the meeting room. Listened to the Russian introduce their product capabilities, with difficulty in understanding her English. Finishing the other project with the product development guy, tried to match our project.

Entering the room of my English class was like in Heaven. Breath the air of my “freedom” from all the telco term. No push to talk term, no mms term, no CRM term, none …nothing ….

Oh God, thank you for giving me 1.15 hours in heaven…

Wednesday, August 02, 2006

Another Dare Game

I read at my neighborhood blog this morning, she quotes one of the French film (again). The story as usual about LOVE, but this time, LOVE comes with different angle. LOVE come through a “Dare Game” and ended with tragic tragedy.

Here I quote a little part of the story from
her blog “Their friendship is symbolized by a tin merry-go-round toy that goes from one to the other. The one who holds the toy has to also take a dare. The dare grows from talking dirty in the class, to crash a wedding-buffet, and as time goes by it grows bolder and riskier and without realizing it the two have become bonded with each other and heavily in love with each other without words, still with the dares they exchange throughout their lives…..

Have to thank
silverlines because she made me remember to the text that I had received sometimes-long time ago.

It’s about a friendship “For me, nowadays, you are the only friend I have. Some friends just stop by to be a friend because of their hidden agenda, it seems that they were my friend but in fact, they’re not. You are a friend indeed.”

I thought that my friend had a “blue day” that time, but reading silverlines blog from of “La vie en rose”, took me to another film of my day with my friend from the old time.

We never play “Dare Game” ; our game is “Dare to hurt”. Hurt each other is something that became our habit. Both of us have a specialty in saying something that will knock off each other . That habit become years and years.

We never realized that “lovely” habit, until one day we asked ourselves why our friend always asks the same question if they met one of us alone. Then we realized that for more than 10 years, our beautiful habit had bonded us with LOVE.

Even though we fight like hell, we always try to find each other if we had a problem or share a good news. I always run to my beloved friend to tell my sadness and my happiness. I always run to my fighting partner to find a sparing partner to discuss my task. And vice versa.

We always questioning our insane relationship but we never find the answer. We always questioning our lives would be if one of us had to fly away first meet our God, and as before, we could not find the answer.

Maybe the answer because my fighting partner has a strength in delivering the input as fast as digesting the information, based on the leadership analysis recently.

Maybe the answer because we never pretend to be somebody else when we play our game ….

Maybe because of God’s Mystery….

Every day, God gives us, as well as the sun,
a moment when it is possible to change anything
that is causing us unhappiness.
The magic moment is the moment when
a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’ can change our whole existence.
Every day, we try to pretend that we do not see
that moment, that it does not exist,
that today is the same as yesterday
and that tomorrow will be the same too.
However, anyone who pays close attention to
his day will discover the magic moment.
It might be hidden in the instant
That we put the key in the door in the morning,
in the moment of silence after supper,
in the thousand and one things
that appear to us to be the same.
This moment exists, a moment in which
all the strength of the stars flows through us
and allow us to perform miracles

..By The River Piedra
I Sat Down and Wept
Paulo Coelho