Sunday, March 20, 2011

For Once In My Life



When you love someone, you love all of them.
You got to love everything about them, not just good things but the bad things too.
The things that you find lovable and the things you don't.
Estelle
Valentine's Day




Interesting ….


In life, there are two kinds of people, who fight to get their love back and others who just let their loved one go – not because they don’t have the energy to fight back, it is just because they have lost their faith.

To love someone by love all of them, the good and the bad things, are not easy as what the movie said.

In life, there are a lot of success stories of how people fight back for their love whilst at the same there a lot of unsuccessful stories of how people finally give up to keep their love.

And still the recipe from the success people no always fit with others, because love is un logical, love is about feeling, love is about people, and love is about God’s plan.

Estelle’s quote is the same like marriage vow in Catholic marriage sacrament. By accepting the good and the bad from our partner it means that we accept God’s plan to us because God had made it.

Therefore, when love vanished we must fight it back, fight as hard as we can, and if we still can’t find it – according to the marriage sacrament – we are not allow to run away instead we must live with it because at that time all the forgiveness, all the acceptance of good and bad from our partner will bring love to live again.

Several years ago when I was in my pilgrimage trip, I asked the priest of those concept. I remember I asked him if God do not allow separation then why He create the feeling of fall in love ? What is the purpose of God by doing that ?

And the priest told me that to find the answer, we have to ask God through our prayer, because we are human and only God who knows the answer.

Yesterday, I watched ‘Fire’ – one of Deepa Mehta film – it’s about how a wife sacrifices her desire just because according to her husband, desire is a sin God’s eye and man. Since that she put her desire at the corner and try not to remember it until her sister in law came to her life. Suddenly she feels alive and fall in love to her sister in law. At the end of the film, she decided to leave her husband because she needs to follow her heart.

Comparing Fire and Valentine’s Day .. what is the lesson that I got ? For me love is a mysterious way of how God shows His care to us. We never know why God create those kind of difficulties in keeping the flame of love in the relationship, but one thing that I know for sure, when God let someone feel the joy of love again, it doesn’t mean that God were mean instead at that time God were sending us a gift to feel the beauty of life.

…. My two cents …



Note :

Another thought - For some people, marrying your best friend is a ticket for a happy marriage; because we turn our relationship from someone that we like to someone we love, because we never pretend to be someone else to someone that we like whilst to stranger, it takes time before we become our selves.

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

A note of Valentine's Day - Dedicated to My Lovely Dogs

On the night of February 14, before I went home, one of my team asked me whether I will have my valentine’s dinner with my husband. I just laughed. Not because I forgot that yesterday was special day for lovers but because the first Valentine’s wishes I got was from my senior high school friends.
We were busy sending valentine’s e-card through our blackberry to each other, saying thank you for them who always be there for us. Friends where we shared our dream, our love story, and our broken hearted, without boundaries.
Remembering those old days made me smile, those days, valentine’s only for couples, not for friends. Roses, chocolate and pinky Teddy Bear were only for lovers not for friends. But since we were grown up people now, we realized that Valentine’s is for everyone, not only for lovers.
Valentine is an annual commemoration which held on February 14, celebrating love and affection between intimate companions. Valentine’s Day is named after one or more early Christian martyrs, Saint Valentine and was established by Pope Gelasius I in  496 AD. It was deleted from the Roman calendar of saints in 1969 by Pope Paul VI. It is traditionally a day on which lovers express their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery and sending greeting cards (known as ‘valentines’). The day first became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages when the tradition of courtly love flourished.

Therefore because of the history of Valentine’s, in Indonesia, nowadays there are a lot of Moslem people do not celebrate Valentine. They’re prohibited to celebrate Valentine’s.

Well  ... I don’t want to write my thought about Moslem beliefs in Valentine, in contrary I just want to express my thought of unconditional love of my lovely dogs.

Early in the morning before all the wishes flew through blackberry messenger, my two dogs already expressed their love. Their morning kiss, their lovely eyes, their hug, really made me in heaven.

They never absent to do their morning ritual, they never mad at me, in fact, and they always express their love like people who just fall in love.


My Whitey, she always be at my side, accompany me wherever I go, she never let me go of her side even when I am taking shower, she must sit in front of the bathroom door like a guardian.



My Lady, early in the morning, she always greets me like we haven’t met for ages. Crying like a baby if I didn’t carry her. Even though she’s not like Whitey, accompany me wherever I go, but she also has to sit next to me when I’m watching a television. 


The way they look at me, always make me like in heaven. I  can see their love through their eyes, the unconditional love, like no one else in this world deserves their love. Only me – the only person in this world who deserves their love.

The worst part is we – human – tend to forget that Valentine’s actually is not only for human being but also for our lovely animal, who give us their conditional love. A friend that never let us go, that always care for us that always accept our selves no matter how worst we are. They always be there.

So, back to one of my team’s question .. I will say that I forgot to say Happy Valentine’s to my lovely dogs and I regret that I haven't prepare Valentine's dinner for them.

Happy Valentine's everyone ...

Tuesday, February 01, 2011

Indonesia .. The “Sin” City


This morning when I heard that Ariel – Indonesian Rock Star – will be on trial, I said to myself, well let us make a bet,  part of me said that the Indonesian court  will sentenced him less than the sentenced they gave to the corruptor number one – you know who – . While the other part said to me that I should be rational, the court will sentenced him at least similar with the corruptor even though I doubt it too.
But since I love Monday was the day where the whole day meeting became the first priority of my calendar, I have forgotten to monitor the verdict through the television at my office, until I read my twitter time line, suddenly I heard the voice of mine,  the voice of the gambler who won the bet, “I won  .. I won .. You lose .. You lose ..”
The verdict as predicted by my other personality really reflected of how Indonesia tried to leave behind the status as ‘Sin City”.
It’s been quite a long time since Indonesia try to built their image as a country where all the porn things to be vanished, where all ‘naked’ things has to be hide somewhere in people’s closet, where free sex is never exist in this country, where the biggest prostitution kampong is a shame.
And they almost claimed their succeed until the famous Indonesia Rock Star personal video of his sexual activities suddenly becomes public consumption.
So can you imagine how shocked they were?  Our Indonesian Leader felt like they’ve been slapped accidentally. They couldn’t understand how the Satan can defeat them,  they felt so envy  that the Indonesian rock star have the courage to recorded himself with a woman, something that they dream of and still there are a lot of people be at his side.
Therefore, when the biggest sensational corruptor – the-you-know-who – were on trial, they told the Angel to shine the judges, so- the-you-know-who-will not be in jail for the rest of his life and his family will not be suffer to pay the penalty.
But not when the Indonesian Rock Star were on trial, they know that it is their time to shown  to all the Satan disciple that Corruptor were better than Porn  things, that the-you-know-who were not degrade the moral of the country whilst the Indonesian Rock Star, who recorded his sexual activity for his own and be stolen, not.
I still don’t understand why The Leader was so na├»ve that only and through porn, Indonesia will get the status as The Holy City ? Do they know that corruption was the real enemy ? Do they know that corruption were the source of all the disease ? Do they know that we are not blind ? Do they know that people are not stupid ?
Me – the Satan Disciple – can only hold my breath, still trying to find answer behind the odd sentenced given to the Indonesian Rock Star. Wondering the morality of our leader if they valued that corruption is much better compare to individual sexual activity lives ?
 If the leader in this country thought that they can make Indonesia as The Holy City through vanishing the porn aka individual sexual activity, then they may be has forgotten that they actually lives in Indonesia – The Sin City.

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Work Hard or Work Smart ?

Working smarter, not harder, is an age-old adage. Once we master the concept then our entire working life will be easier.
Recently I heard people sang the same song to me, “Argh, I have to work long hours, wish I have the luxurious time to go home earlier.”  Or other person told me, “ Well, we have to work hard now, there are lots of things that have to be done.”
Me ? I can’t say much, especially since I also have the same problem with them. There are a lot of things on my plate that have to be done. Sometimes at the end of the day, I felt that I just finish my 10K run, exhausted.
Then I remember, long time ago, when I worked at multi-national company, there’s a time when the company suddenly change the culture from working hard to work smart, from spend your time with your co-worker to spend time with the family, get a life-balancing.
Looking back to the old days and compare to the latest situation which happened to my friends, I just wondering why on earth suddenly they told me that they have to work hard now. What happened with the old days ? The competition at that time as tough as today.  Working hard ? Yes, we do work hard as hell as today, nothing changed. The differences only on how we balance our life, on how we work to get things done on time, on how we try to work effectively.
Therefore, back to the people who sang that song, I just noticed that the problem lay down on how they managed their time. Most of the time, they spend their time to attend the meeting, or sometimes they came late to the meeting and instead of focusing the subject to the topic of the meeting, they just discuss the issue which is not in the list. Sometimes I don’t understand for such a small issue they must held a  meeting ?
Besides that, I also noticed, that when they arrived at the office, after put their belonging they went down to find something to eat for breakfast, spend at minimum 30 minutes to chit-chat; and instead of going home on time, they just went out just for a little chit-chat or spend their happy hour time before going back again to the office to continue their work.
Hence, they complained that they don’t have enough time to spend with their family.
According to Wiki, there are 10 steps to follow, but the most important things is on how we make an outline of our task, differentiate it under  ‘important and critical’ and finally work on it, stick with the list that we have mark on important and critical.
Easy isn’t it ? And because it is so easy, even I am not being able to do that kind of things every day.  Not because I don’t know how to do it but merely because I am not discipline myself to follow the 1st step, list down my things to do for today.
So, Work Hard or Work Smart ? For me we have to do it both, work smart doesn’t mean that we don’t work hard. In contrary, when we work smart, we work hard to finish the most important and critical things first to be able to work other task done in time.