Sunday, February 17, 2008

80/20 Rule in Life

I bet that everybody know the 80/20 rule, the Pareto rule, the distributions law, where the twenty percent give the contribution to eighty percent.

But, if it comes to marriage life, or life, can we use that Pareto rule ?

Last night, I watched a movie, the romantic comedy movie, “Why did I get married ?”. It’s the story of four married couples where the husbands kept their secret by themselves and only share the secret to the buddy husband gang.

One of the husband had an affair secret, he didn’t tell his wives about his affair (silly, if he told his wives then it would not be a secret anymore) but he shared this secret to his buddy husband gang.

As we all know, buddy can drop us any comment, good or bad, agree or disagree, fact or fake, and we just take it like we take a food, spit it out if the taste is awful or just swallow it if the taste match.

In the affair case, two of his buddy did not buy his reason of having an affair and one of them give him this advice :

Do you know the 80/20 rule ? In most cases, in marriage you are only going to get eighty percent of what you need. That’s it. No more, no less.
Most time eighty percent.
Now here comes this woman offering twenty percent.
Now twenty percent looks real good when you are not getting it.
But the problem is you are going to leave the eighty percent and thinking you were getting something better, and you end up with twenty percent.

What an up-side-down of the Pareto rule, isn’t it ?

Actually it’s not. We should see it from the opposite way. The twenty that we are not have it, the twenty that we thought that will make our life sparkling, actually will cause eighty percent of disaster in our life; especially if it affects the most important things in every human being value, LOVE.

I have to say that Pareto rule actually it’s not just a theory of distribution, or even economic rule, it’s a rule which we could apply in every part of our life.

In life, as a working-mom, I don’t have the luxurious to spend time with my family especially with my daughters; I only have week-end, the twenty percent. And as far as I know, the twenty percent, were the day my family waiting for, the day where we could get together and cheer the future eighty.

Marriage life and Pareto rule ? Yes … like the movie said …

L is for the way you look at me
O is for the only one I see
V is very, very extraordinary
E is even more than anyone that you adore can

Love is all that I can give to you
Love is more than just a game for two
Two in love can make it
Take my heart and please don't break it
Love was made for me and you


Elyani said...

The old saying is there's no rule to love. Real love to me is the strongest bond without doubt. My younger sis is a single working mom with one beautiful daughter. Despite her limited time between work and doing the house chores, she made the time to spent together with her daughter. L spends her time at daycare during weekdays when her mom is at work. It was never anything elaborate just something special--a trip to the zoo/parks/libraries. Perhaps the 20 rule works well here. I know for sure L remembers when her mom is there not so much she wasn't around. Good post, Lalita!

dinysays said...

'ta... as a fellow working mom, i understand wholeheartedly what you meant. if i were to apply the pareto rule into my life, i'm also looking at the 20 as the treasured time with my kids.

thank you for the beautiful post...

Aprianti said...

I love reading this post. And this is the way I put Pareto rule in life: 20% of the decisions we ever take in our life are big decisions that will determine 80% of our happiness (or sadness). 20% of our actions are big actions that will determine 80% of the way we live our life.

Anonymous said...

Great read! You may want to follow up on this topic :D